Well it’s my second blog about pride month and what I have experienced this far in life. Today we are going to talk about an experience that happened with a jealous coworker. Now if you read my first blog this month you know I came out to my parents in 2014 and you read that they were supportive. Well this happened one year after one day when I wasn’t at work and this coworker thought it would be great to spread to the coworkers working that he found out I was gay.
Now till this point in my life, I kept my personal life to myself and those in my inner circle. I didn’t talk about my personal life to work because honestly, it’s no one’s business what I do in my personal life. I don’t bring any of my personal life to work, I keep to myself and discuss work-related things with most of my coworkers. That changed however then one coworker felt the need to express my personal life out loud.
Luckily for me, a great friend came to me and told me that this coworker during a shift proceeded to tell the shift work that I had planned to come out to my family that I was gay and that he was the first to know. At this point in my life, I had already been out to my family and all my close friends for a year now. So him announcing this was not going to affect my personal life in anyway really. He thought he was getting the upper hand in me by talking about this for about an hour and laughter filled the room.
His plan soon backfired as I went to my manager who fully supported me and was just as mad about the situation as I was. I filed an HR report and went from there. This is where I finally had a chance to digest things finally and this I think is where in life I experienced my first full-blown panic attack. I was mad more than anything, I was furious because I hadn’t done a thing to this co-worker he was just disgruntled and decided to take if out on me.
My attack came from anger, why I asked myself, why would someone do this to another person? Then I slowly calmed down and thought about it, this person didn’t love themselves and was a toxic person. They we disgruntled as they hate their job and they love making others miserable.
Do yourself a favor and don’t be this person. Don’t beat others down to build yourself up, because honestly your just being a sad person that’s toxic. Don’t talk about anyone’s personal life you know nothing about. Don’t sit there and spread rumors of someone’s life you have never been a part of. Toxic people are not wanted, they drain the people who actually love their life. They bring unwanted stress and worries to propels life who don’t even have a thing to do with you.
Always choose to lift others up! Choose to smile at a stranger, wave a a starnger going down the road. A simple “Good Morning” in passing mag make someones day! Choose happiness and not to be toxic!
The Anxious Gent 